Before values settle

Epistemic status: This is based on ten years of matchmaking experience in India - my lens for evaluating alignment. This is a conceptual essay continuing on my earlier ideas about relational alignment. For over a decade, I ran a matchmaking practice in India. People assume matchmakers like me spend their days pairing checklists - height with height, race with race, caste with caste, salary with salary, vegetarian with vegetarian. It sounds like science until you meet the humans involved.Over…